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The Chinese have acquired one of the most popular gay male phone apps.

Grindr Sells Stake to Chinese Company

Over half the single gay men I know have Grindr on their phones.

Grindr serves the same purpose as the personal ads did in my day. A way to meet as many men as possible in as short a time as convenient. In the old days, we had to go to gay bars to look over the available guys. Then the personal ads showed up but they were frought.

Unsurprisingly many guys were not very honest in their self description.

30ish GWM seeks same for romantic nights and happy times. Love movies, candlelight and good talk. Swimmer's build, big dick and stamina in the sack desired--no fems no fatties no sm

Well, not really but you get the idea.

John and I met through a personal ad. I met a lot of guys that way. The rules were simple and probably the same today. Meet on neutral ground for a drink, nothing longer. Keep the next couple of hours open in case it worked out. Always always always let a friend know where you were and where you were going with bracketing phone calls.

Some of it was cruel. I once drove past a meeting spot and didn't like the looks of a guy and then never showed up. The same or similar happened to me.

I do not know if Grindr is different but there is the advantage of a quick response and an almost encyclopedic choice of the men available right now.

The old joke. "I'm not looking for Mr. Right, I want Mr. Right Now"

So, in a way, the more things change the more they stay the same.

You have to remember that it is men who use this thing. Who cruise. Who select. It is instinctive. The instinct to spread as much seed as possible is taken seriously. Straight men who may cluck at this have no fucking idea. Really.

But I digress.

The news here is really really that the Chinese have bought this. A Chinese company! The RED Chinese, the repressive society.

Well, it is no secret that the Chinese like their sex. Red hot. Quick and Red-dy. Actually that are not really "red" any more. If they ever were. That is an artifact of the cold war.

They have repressed gays though. Seriously. And still do. So it is hypocritical.

Wouldn't it be interesting if they were buying Grindr in a step toward world domination in the sex industry as a way to gain control over the masses?

Amusing. But in the scheme of things, we are talking about sex here. When the heat is on and the panting begins, gay or straight, ideology goes out the window. And if it doesn't it is a lousy lay and you never go back. I have had a few politicos in my bed. A long time ago. As a category they are a little too fond of the dialectic. Materialistic or not. Talk is a downer. A wilter. Cold water on the need to connect.

Grindr skips all of that. Right to the chase.

Labels: gay life, gay sex, internet

There is a wonderful web site that takes a sex census of gay men.

And a whole lot more.

Where do you fit in?

Let's get the suspense over right away. I am off the charts as the survey stops at 70 years of age but at that demographic, it turns out, that I am a "Daddy".

No surprises there. I have been labeled a "Daddy" from the get go. Which, if you consider the situation, is rather appropriate. I do have five kids after all!

But that is not one of the questions here.

I also edge into the "muscle bear" category. I would not put myself there at all. But it is a nice thing nonetheless. Thanks! I do go to the gym. But I am not what I would have thought of as a bear. Although others do think this. We never know much about ourselves, huh?

Other odds and ends. I would be "hottest" in Dallas Texas. Game over there. Not a chance. I have been in Dallas.

After that, Baltimore and Philadelphia. Been there done that.

Least desirable in Melbourne! Alert to my family there, it might have passed on in the genes but data says otherwise. (wink).

Also not much doing for me in Columbus, Ohio or London, England. I was just in London. I wondered why I didn't get many second looks. Shit.

Of much more critical interest to many gay men is the subject of top or bottom. In my experience this is sheer obfuscation. Note the paradox. Sheer/Obfuscation. The apparent revelation of a fact with a resultant confusion. I put in that I was versatile but the fact is that I have always most enjoyed being other "versatile" men with an emphasis on timely play. No roles. No positions. No expectations. No plans. No tops. No bottoms. Just the dance.

I can tell you that this is by far the best approach if you can see your way into it. Do not play that game.

By the time two men are finished with such a discussion the game is over. No further surprises. No excitement. No mystery. And no experimentation means no fun.

Now, admittedly, I have been out of the game for decades so my comments on the subject are limited to the experience with one man. And, with the approach of maturity (!), experience is more along the line of how to find love without all the hoo hah in the first place. That is the real challenge.

Now, for the sake of home and health I should stop my comments.

Labels: gay sex

The nipple war is still raging.

When I did the tattoo story, the one below about tattooed nipples, I was looking for a picture and I ran across this recent article.

The Facebook War on Nipples

Fascinating.

Did you know that it is only recently that men's nipples became liberated?

This would coincide with my father's experience in the thirties.

My Dad loved to take his shirt off. He did have something to show for it. He was a natural chest man. He had the pecs and the nipples that some men work their life away for today.

I freely admit that part of my gay attraction machine is men who have chests like my father (and hairless too) and I am not, by any means, the only one who is looking. It is the homo-standard.

I suspect that, as is now the case, this is a matter of body type (mesomorph) and genes as much as anything but he was also a hard physical worker. He had a tough manual job even though he wore a necktie (grocery store manager) and he worked hard at "hobbies" like building our house, cutting trees and the like. We can, and I do, go to the gym to get this kind of body. At times I have achieved some degree of this look but I am also a child of my mother's family who have kind of sloppy musculature. I remember that my cousin Philip was a hunk for about ten minutes when he was 20 but that didn't last any longer than my brief time in the sun.

But I digress. The point is that men have only recently been able to bare their tits and I think this is one of the reasons that, particularly gays, have such a good time admiring and fooling around with them.

Not so with women. They are still in the tit dark ages. It is just not proper to bare the female chest in some venues. There are a lot of reasons for this which I won't go into but it is a particular hypocrisy when media like Facebook ban something like fe-nipples when they allow almost everything else. It probably has something to do with that asshole Zuckerberg.

In fact, when it comes right down to it, nipples are nipples wherever they are.

Here is a puzzle.

Only C and E are female

Labels: gay sex, human rights, sex

When You're Getting Gay With a Guy How Do You Decide Who is the Girl and Who is the Boy?"

The question asked by closet cases everywhere. Also clueless geeks and numb nuts. But who am I to judge.

Labels: gay sex