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There is a wonderful web site that takes a sex census of gay men.

And a whole lot more.

Where do you fit in?

Let's get the suspense over right away. I am off the charts as the survey stops at 70 years of age but at that demographic, it turns out, that I am a "Daddy".

No surprises there. I have been labeled a "Daddy" from the get go. Which, if you consider the situation, is rather appropriate. I do have five kids after all!

But that is not one of the questions here.

I also edge into the "muscle bear" category. I would not put myself there at all. But it is a nice thing nonetheless. Thanks! I do go to the gym. But I am not what I would have thought of as a bear. Although others do think this. We never know much about ourselves, huh?

Other odds and ends. I would be "hottest" in Dallas Texas. Game over there. Not a chance. I have been in Dallas.

After that, Baltimore and Philadelphia. Been there done that.

Least desirable in Melbourne! Alert to my family there, it might have passed on in the genes but data says otherwise. (wink).

Also not much doing for me in Columbus, Ohio or London, England. I was just in London. I wondered why I didn't get many second looks. Shit.

Of much more critical interest to many gay men is the subject of top or bottom. In my experience this is sheer obfuscation. Note the paradox. Sheer/Obfuscation. The apparent revelation of a fact with a resultant confusion. I put in that I was versatile but the fact is that I have always most enjoyed being other "versatile" men with an emphasis on timely play. No roles. No positions. No expectations. No plans. No tops. No bottoms. Just the dance.

I can tell you that this is by far the best approach if you can see your way into it. Do not play that game.

By the time two men are finished with such a discussion the game is over. No further surprises. No excitement. No mystery. And no experimentation means no fun.

Now, admittedly, I have been out of the game for decades so my comments on the subject are limited to the experience with one man. And, with the approach of maturity (!), experience is more along the line of how to find love without all the hoo hah in the first place. That is the real challenge.

Now, for the sake of home and health I should stop my comments.

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