Monday, June 29, 2009
HET AND HOMO BRO'S
The New York Times has discovered that there are actually gay and straight men who are friends. Even best friends. Sometimes business partners!
They can't even get through using innuendo in the title.
They got to this through the American Idol guys who I have seen were roommates and all and are still close. They are sweet together. Adam Lambert and Kris Allen.
Leave it to the teevee to reveal new levels of social intercourse. Or not.
When I was young, there actually was tension in some of my friendships with straight men.
A lot of this came about because I came out during the relationship and, I think, they were always a little uneasy about my motives.
Since then though, where I have entered gay and out and have been friends with straight men, I have had very good friendships which endured. Some even today over long distances and time separations.
My business partner was straight. One of the closest relationships in my life. And still is.
In a way, I don't like to analyze it or even think too much about it because it seems that it is obvious we would be friends and that making a thing out of the orientation somehow disrupts what had been a smooth thing. Examination affects the examined. Heisenberg?
So I won't examine it.
It is worth noting that I also have three straight sons. All A+ relationships.
I think the Times article is a little too "gee whiz" but it is nice to see and might set a tone or an atmosphere for some straight men to think it over before they distance. More importantly that gay men get the message. I know too many gay men who ghettoize. Not good.
Straight men are good for us. My father was a straight man and he was good for me. So are all my good het friends.
Enough. I am analyzing a good thing. I don't want to fuck up the balance and the good vibes around it all.
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