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Having spent some time being "straight", I can attest to the fact that a lot of straight people have a lot of wrong ideas about "the gays".

This article does a nice job of dispelling many of them.

8 Things Straight People Get Wrong About Gay Men

(The "8" should be spelled out, incidentally, eight, as it is under ten, but never mind. It is a headline.)

I have a longer list but this is enough to provide a good tutorial.

One that we hear less these days is "who is the husband and who is the wife"". This illustrates a blindness so severe that it even ignores that many non-gay relationships steer out of the gender role waters. The answer, dear heart, is that we are both husbands and thank the good lord that is so. We like men after all. Husbands are great. All of us want one! All of us want to be one.

Another one not on the list is a little more refined than the example given but does have to do with what we do in bed. The first answer to that is that bed is just the beginning of it. It is more relevant to spell out what we do all over the house, on the floor even. I have never done it in the attic because I never had one.

We are exotics and it is "normal" for everyone to be curious. As a former member of a straight relationship, I can report that there isn't much difference. God provided many bits and parts for sex play and when the heat is up there is just no end to the possibilities. Even that! Straight people's obsession about the asshole is quite amusing. Little do they know.

The thing is that sex is a full body sport and anyone who is thinking about specific parts is probably revealing an impoverished sex life. By now, the world has tumbled that there is more to sex than fumbling around in bed in the dark. You can do it anywhere and so much the better.

The most peculiar straight reaction is that of women who have the idea they could convert or repatriate a gay man to straight living. Talk about the arrogance of men and their assumptions about manipulation. Women have a touch of the same delusions.

There are, of course, some gay men rumored to be bent on converting straight guys to their way of life but that is really an older myth. There is very little scarcity these days. Lots of gay prospects running around looking for other gay prospects. And, I think, men's expectations are more modest. A one time quickie is fine. In an out so to speak. And what was your name again?

Sometimes you don't even have to buy him dinner or, for god's sake, stay the night and worry about serving breakfast. Low commitment means more frequency of making the connect.

But fundamentally, men like men because that is the way they are built. The culture around it changes but the idea remains the same. Gays are guys who like guys. Period.

Labels: gay culture, gay men