Monday, April 16, 2012
MINIMAL CONNECTION
I recently read something where they referred to the way men often greet each other non-verbally.
A nod. Upswing of the chin, eye contact and the chin stays up just a bit before it returns to the original position.
I have seen this. I have noticed it. I, in fact, do it.
I may have been doing this most of my life but never consciously.
A cultural non-verbal.
Do you know about this? Do you see it? Do you do it?
There is also something of an eye thing. Here is where straight and gay men differ.
Straight men nod. Period. "The gays" say something else, quickly. Are you? And if not will you anyway?
Once you start to deconstruct the nod it becomes way more complicated.
Do straight men know about the little gay twist? Probably not because they do not respond to it. The way to respond would be to stop or smile or wave your hand or pass and then turn. But the wait and turn is more blatant and cruisey. Faggot!
Incidentally, women do not do this. Period. They do nothing in the way of a nod or a hello unless they know you from a safe interaction.
There is a guy who comes to the gym, has been for awhile. He is a blank slate but handsome. Very. Quite hot. I admit to a mild crush.
I made it a point to say hello to him as he was close enough to my cardio spot to do so.
He looked a bit shocked that someone broke through the wall but he was nice and, well, nodded.
He speaks to no one. No one speaks to him except for a couple of girls who come from time to time.
He is part of the troupe of gym people who started at my Golds when the 24 Hour Fitness bellied up.
He doesn't even acknowledge them. Except the two girls.
Once I did the hello I would see him and give a small wave. Very small. He would do the nod. And he does it so well.
Now I nod too.
So I studied this and notice that everyone does it. Sort of.
This is how I got interested in all this as when I read about the nod, I was in the middle of a nodding, and nothing else, relationship.
Men are funny, no?
Labels: non-verbals
